Just You and Me

Lily watched her husband Brett in silence. He was not aware she was there, but that’s how she wanted it. She had been watching him since it happened the day before. Watching to see how he was handling the news. Watching to see if he was missing her. Watching to see if she should stay or go. She needed to see that he would be fine on his own.

Lily was confused as she watched her husband prepare a cheese platter rather joyfully, glass of red on the side and soft music in the background. He was not meant to be acting this way, was he? Where were the tears or the screams of disbelief? Where was the grief? He almost seemed happy? Lily heard the doorbell and hung back out of sight as Brett went to answer it. On the other side was Sam, Brett’s co-worker and close friend. Lily was touched – Sam was here to comfort her husband in his time of need. As Lily stuck her head around the corner ever so slightly, she was horrified to see Sam and her supposedly grieving husband in a passionate embrace. As they finally came up for air, Sam asked breathlessly, “Is she gone? Is she really gone?” Lily swore she felt time stop when she heard Brett’s response, “She sure is baby. It’s just you and me.”

The reality hit Lily like a bolt of lightening. She remembered everything. Brett working late, the messages from Sam at all hours, Brett rushing off to help with some last minute project. It all fell into place. Her husband’s affair had been right under her nose this whole time, and she failed to see it. She had been so naïve. She was then hit with another reality – chest pains, collapsing on the kitchen floor, bright fluorescent lights of the emergency room, and then nothing. Now she was here. Lily remembered ignoring her chest pains that morning until the last excruciating one got her. She remembered she was now dead. She had come back to check on her husband before moving on, but now she had unexpectedly witnessed his unfaithfulness first hand. Furious, a little plan began to hatch. She had one more job to do.

Lily left Brett and Sam to enjoy their evening together before returning the next morning to view her handy work. She witnessed the display she wanted to see when Brett learned of her death – tears, outbursts, and unbearable grief. But no, he took the news of Sam’s death a lot harder. Seems the poor dear’s brake lines had failed, and she had sailed right off a cliff. Having four brothers had certainly paid off when it came to cars. Lily knew exactly where to cut.

She was there waiting when ghost Sam entered the house. “Am I dead?” Sam asked in a tiny voice. Lily looked at her and smiled wickedly, “You sure are baby. It’s just you and me.”



Sunday Sessions

I spent my Easter Sunday at a Titanic exhibition. It was good — really good. And very sad. I have always been obsessed with the story of the Titanic. I remember in primary school we could pick any subject we wanted to do an assignment on and I picked — yep, you guessed it — the Titanic. I believe I got a B for that effort. I also believe the teacher couldn’t recognise a well researched, well put together assignment by an 8yr old if it bit her in the ass. That assignment was an A grade at the very least. But hey, that’s just my opinion.

I know I am not alone with my fascination for this doomed ship. We all know the story. It is a story the world still finds fascinating today. But why? At any given moment, there are cruise liners sailing the seas all over the world. They are carrying more passengers and are bigger and better than the Titanic could have ever dreamed of. They would put her to shame. Yet, our fascination still stays with the Titanic.

“The sounds of people drowning are something that I can not describe to you, and neither can anyone else. Its the most dreadful sound and there is a terrible silence that follows it.”
-Eva Hart, Titanic Survivor

There are so many contributing factors to this sad story. The sheer arrogance at the time — she was deemed unsinkable. I believe the quote was ‘God himself could not sink this ship’ . They just did not think it was possible. In the event that she did run into trouble, they had water tight compartments to stop her sinking. They just didn’t count on those compartments being ruptured after colliding with an iceberg. Despite several warnings about icebergs (6 in fact), they still pushed on — at speed — to make an early landing in New York. They wanted to wow the press, the passengers, the world at how fast she was. How magnificent was this ship — she had completed her maiden voyage early! They were totally unprepared for the unlikely event of sinking. They didn’t have enough lifeboats onboard and when she did start to sink, they launched them only half full — if that. Even when the call came that sinking was imminent, I think many passengers and crew refused to believe it was happening. It would have been total chaos and panic to be on board the Titanic when she went down. It would have truly been every man, woman and child for themselves. And God help you if you were in third class. How utterly horrifying.

In my research, I came across http://www.titanicfacts.net and I found these interesting tidbits:

  • There were 13 couples honeymooning on the Titanic
  • 30 seconds was the length of time they had from when the lookout spotted the iceberg to impact
  • It was a full 60 minutes after impact before a single lifeboat was launched
  • It took 160 minutes for the Titanic to sink (2 hours and 40 minutes)
  • Passengers were greeted with a water temperature of -2 degrees when the ship finally sunk
  • Once passengers hit the water, they had a 15–45 minute survival window
  • 2 dogs survived the sinking. These lucky pooches were taken aboard lifeboats by their owners
  • 125 bodies were buried at sea. This was due to being badly damaged, badly decomposed or not enough resources (such as lack of embalming fluid)
  • 118 bodies — either taken ashore or buried at sea — remain unidentified

It is just a senseless loss of life. So many lives were lost — over 1500 — and for what? They were the unfortunate passengers of a ship so full of herself, she didn’t think sinking was possible, hence being so unprepared for it. These poor souls would have been heading to New York to start new lives, new jobs, new beginnings and instead they met a watery grave. It is so hard to fathom.

That is where part of the fascination lies I believe. This ship — this mighty, extravagant ship — that held so many souls along with their hopes and dreams, went down so tragically. She hit an iceberg, took on water, split in two and took over 1500 souls with her. This was not part of the grand plan.

I believe fate played a huge part in her demise. It’s almost like fate looked at the cockiness surrounding her and her ‘unsinkable’ title and sunk her so horrifically that the world would be sure to never be so arrogant again. It was a huge slap in the face that proves, be as prepared (or in this case as unprepared) as we like, at the end of the day it all comes down to fate. She holds all the cards; we must never forget that.

Or use the term ‘unsinkable’ for anything ever again. Ever.

If you would like to read some more about the story of the Titanic check out these great sites:


Source — www.titanicfacts.net/titanic-sinking.html


  • This article has also been published on my Medium page

Downloading now…..

The impact of media piracy

Media piracy. It is everywhere in many forms. Worldwide people are downloading movies, music and TV shows without paying a single cent for it. When the courts shut down a file sharing website, a new one is up minutes later. You can guarantee when a new episode of Game Of Thrones drops, half the world will be downloading it. While many think it is a victimless crime – or the TV networks or artists can afford to lose a bit of money – has anyone really thought about the impact of piracy?

Remember when your favourite artist released their new album? How I miss those days. You’d excitedly go to the record store, buy it and then rush home and flog it to death while studying the inside of the album cover (remember those? Some were like a fabulous little book!)

Now, you can just hit download. And while you think not paying hurts the artists themselves, it goes a lot further than that.

According to Forbes.com contributor Nelson Granados, piracy hurts emerging artists too – yet we don’t hear about it.

He states ‘The impact of piracy on established artists is often cited because it’s easier to put a number to it. For example, Hollywood studios have the financial backing to track illegal downloads and streams, and with those numbers I have estimated losses in the hundreds of millions of dollars. But the less documented damage extends far beyond the “red carpet”, to emerging artists, especially those who are on the verge of making it.’

As for the film and TV industry, Ian Barker of betanews.com observes ‘Almost a third of consumers watch pirated content even though they know it’s illegal to do so and that it deprives the content creators of revenue.’

I don’t think we will ever be rid of piracy and illegal downloading. However if we put a more human face on who it really affects – such as that band just starting out – we just might think twice before hitting download.

Who knows, we may even return to buying good old CD’s again….


Sources – Nelson Granados – Forbes.com

                    Ian Barker – betanews.com




Schools out….there. Online

                                           The changing face of education                                                                                                                          

Back in the day, if you wanted to gain further education after you had finished high school (or didn’t) you had no choice but to go to University or TAFE. Where you studied depended on what you were studying and if you were offered a spot. Basically, you took what you could get…and in some cases, what you could afford.

Fast forward to now and the options for further education are endless. Yes, you can still attend a brick and mortar education provider in person (and depending on what you are studying you have no other choice but to) but you can now complete an entire course online, via correspondence. Further educating ourselves has never been more accessible, or easy. In fact, I have just completed a course via correspondence and I loved it. I never had to attend a classroom, work was given and submitted online and if I had any questions I would email or Facebook my teachers – it was so unbelievably accessible and user friendly – and I now have a nationally recognised qualification (yay for me!)

Not that long ago, this kind of education did not exist. Now you can be a student of the education provider of your choice – and you don’t even need to be in the same state.

‘The world is your educational oyster….’

‘It’s no wonder why millions of students from all around the world opt for online degree programs or take at least one college course through an online platform. Online learning has to be the greatest revolution in contemporary education. It made a huge change in the system and opened great opportunities for everyone who wants to learn something.’ Stephanie Norman of elearningindustry.com observes as she explains the 5 benefits of online education (great read by the way)

There are also benefits of online learning for time poor students, such as those with a family or those who are currently working; you can choose when it suits you to study.

Tom Snyder of The Huffington Post points out ‘In today’s job market, taking online courses help workers remain competitive and they don’t need to take time off from their jobs to do this.’

The positives far outweigh any small negatives when it comes to online education – you can choose from hundreds of education providers offering hundreds of courses. You can enter the workforce, move up with your current employer or land your dream job – all thanks to online education. And that is just for starters….

I highly recommend anyone even thinking of further educating themselves, check out these articles and watch this video by education provider OTEN (links below).

I was hesitant to train online –but I am so glad I did it. The world is your educational oyster guys – get out there and learn!

Sources –         Stephanie Norman – elearning.com

Tom Snyder – The Huffington Post

OTEN – Open Training Education Network



OTEN video link – https://youtu.be/d-_I4z4OZl4

The good, the bad and your Instagram feed…..

The hidden dangers of Social Media

We all have it. We all use – Social Media. It is now a part of our daily lives. We post, complain, compliment, order products, form new friendships and find out about events that interests us daily – and this is just for starters. It has become such a part of our daily lives that I am sure many of us would break out in a cold sweat if we had to go without. We know the good that can come from it but what about the bad? What about the hidden dangers of Social Media?

A quick google on this subject revealed too many for this blog it would seem, so for today I will be focusing on one I know all too well….Body Image

According to time.com, social media has become a toxic mirror.

‘Visual platforms like Facebook and Instagram deliver the tools that allow teens to earn approval for their appearance and compare themselves to others’ writes Rachel Simmons (time.com)

This view is backed up by theconversation.com authors Susan J Paxton and Sian McLean who write – ‘It is not unusual for people to spend a great deal of time thinking about their next “selfie” opportunity and planning the right pose to capture their best and most attractive self. People often edit or add filters to their selfies, take many selfies before choosing one to post, and worry about the reactions of others.’

The danger lies therein that girls, women and men will look at the constant stream of perfect selfies clogging their feeds and think they should look like that and there is something wrong with them if they don’t. If you already suffer from poor body image, the result of this kind of exposure can be brutal. It’s like having a glossy magazine cover looking back at you every time you check your phone. And after a while you start to think that you are not normal, when in fact nothing could be further from the truth – your social media feed is what is not normal.

What you don’t see is the 100’s of selfies one took before they got that perfect shot. Or the 50 different filters they used before deciding on the right one. I do believe social media has its perks, however increasing body image and self esteem is not one of them.

I am not sure there is a quick fix to the issues that arise from this, but raising awareness will help, and this is why I am a huge fan of the increasingly popular pages of normal looking girls posting normal looking photos. Bumps and all. And certainly no filters involved. I believe they are playing their part in helping this problem and getting ‘normal’ out there. I highly recommend you check them out on your Instagram feed and you will see that we are all OK and perfectly normal. Really.

And remember – there is more to that selfie than meets the eye….

Sources –    time.com – Rachel Simmons

                      theconversation.com – Susan J Paxton and Sian McLean